Of course! Self development/improvement will definitely evaluate and improve one's own perspective about his/her life (i.e. whether it's fair or unfair). We all know that, life is full of problems, but how we approach those problems often determines whether we’re happy or miserable. We may born indifferently. But it doesn't mean we can live differently, for that matter exceptionally well too. Our state of living is the real reflection of what we are doing to our self, how we trust our instincts? It doesn't matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph/raise to higher levels of life begins with you. Always! No exception. Motivation accompanying with a vision, a clear mental image of a certain situation or achievement, and also a strong desire to materialize it can push one forward, toward taking action and making the vision a reality. If you feel your life is full of problems, view those obstacles as opportunities in disguise. Failures are only failures if we decide to remain defeated. Successful/happy people have embraced failure. It’s not what happens to them that determines their rewards. It’s how they perceive events. This is what forms the core element in self-development and our life long fairness!

Answered by A.R. , an ibibo Master, at 5:02 PM on October 03, 2008

Two definitions of self I have seen are:

1. Your consciousness of your own identity, and

2. A person considered as a unique individual "one's own self".

The very word self in self improvement means that there must, by definition, be as many meanings to self improvement as there are people. It is a simple, inescapable fact.

There is no wrong or right in the field of self improvement. What works for one person may not work for another. Improvement to one individual may mean being able to eat every day of the week instead of on only 5. To another, it could mean achieving a higher salary; another, rediscovering their spirituality after spending years working flat out to be rich. What is self improvement to one may actually appear as self decline to another.

Such is the richness and variety of life that the poor person who only ate 5 days a week, may be very happy, smile much of the time, and have a supreme spiritual existence on a higher plane than the person seeking a higher salary. In that poor person's grasp is the spirituality that the rich person is now seeking. They may one day by like ships passing in the night in the search for self improvement. Or like people in adjacent elevators, one going down, the other going up.

None of that really matters. What really does matter is how the individual sees his or her self, and what they would perceive as improvement to that self. Next will come the decision to improve. Self improvement cannot come without a decision to do so. Then will come the selection of self improvement techniques to use. Maybe just one technique, but more likely a range of techniques. It could even be that to use one self improvement technique, the user would first benefit from the use of another. For example, relaxation techniques may be needed as a preparation for exploring spirituality.

Self improvement is not a rigid and blinkered science. There are many ingredients that can be blended to produce a large variety of self improvement dishes. You choose, you do, you benefit.

Some routes to self improvement are not techniques at all, they are random occurrences. How many people regard illness as a route to self improvement? I was fortunate enough to suffer from a crippling arthritic disease, ankylosing spondylitis, when I was in my late teens. By my mid 20's I could hardly walk. By 27 I was needing 2 walking sticks just to shuffle along. "Fortunate enough"? A typing error? No. I know for sure I am a better person for having gone through all that. Not that I would recommend it as a route to self improvement. If, however, you ever face a painful or life threatening illness, you too may twist the event inside out and use it to improve yourself.

Similar occurrences happen with other bad events in your life. Loss of job, loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a natural disaster destroying all your possessions; you never know what may come along to alter the course of your life. At each junction, you must be the one to decide. It is your life, your world, and your universe.

Maybe to some the first decision to make on the route to self improvement is to decide to decide. To consciously make decisions that will benefit and improve you is a vital step. If you are more aware of your decisions, you are more in control of your life. Each decision affects your world and your universe. If you allow events to just wash over you, drowning both your conscious and unconscious thoughts, then self improvement is unlikely to follow in quite the way you hope.

I am including in this website some articles by different authors, whose opinions do not necessarily reflect my own. But it is important that you have the full range to choose from. Hopefully, you will not just choose from them but be inspired to develop your own. After all, you are you, you are self, you are unique.

Answered by Madhurima , an ibibo Master, at 6:14 PM on October 01, 2008

It’s our shortcomings, failure and to large extent pessimism that makes us conclude that “life is unfair”. The techniques of self development and improvement are a path to reformation and are a measure to understand the dearth of negative energy in us. If we understand the relevance and significance of it then we are likely to be erasing the word “unfair” and injustice from our minds. It’s sometime our negative approach or grim efforts that leads us to failures and thereafter makes us remorse or repents in life. It further draws a dark void of worthlessness and delivers a sense of unfairness in life. Self development works appropriately in curbing it out and giving out the desired remedies for it.

Answered by jyoti , an ibibo Master, at 12:45 PM on September 29, 2008

The pessimistic is one who grumbles 'Nature' and Luck have been unfair to him/her. They are the unhappy lots for the reasons that they themselves are not sure. They not only back push themselves nut take others too along.

These people are or should be the actual target of Self Development and self Improvement. if they are motivated and taught or directed to think positive if not all at least 90% of them would see the brighter side of life.

Answered by K. Rajib , an ibibo Master, at 11:27 PM on September 28, 2008

Does life seem unfair? Would you consider yourself as a happy person? Do you consider yourself a successful person? Do you consider yourself lucky? in Life? in Love?

Self improvement and self development are important, because they help to develop a new way of thinking, to give up the "life is unfair" attitude. Self improvement is a continuous process, a continuous work on ourselves.

Self improvement cannot come without your decision to do so. You should make your decision first.

Answered by Arle Rambabu , an ibibo Master, at 4:28 PM on September 28, 2008

Life is not an fair to all. All you have to identy the mistake of self and others. If you over come negative thoughts you will know the fact that stoping in all aspects. You will find the route of the self development and you will be clear.

Answered by Govindarajan , an ibibo Master, at 4:02 PM on September 28, 2008

Interesting question.. Life is never unfair to anyone.. You need the right attitude to face life's problems and once you hit the chord, the problems seem go away.. If at any time you feel like life is not fair to you, take some time off and analyze the situation.. Most of the cases can be overcome by improving your own self.. If you improve yourself, you are much more better equipped to tackle life's challenges.. So after self improvement and self development the problem of yesterday may seem easier to solve.. And once you solve the problem, life is not at all unfair for you..

Answered by Swagat , an ibibo Citizen, at 1:14 PM on September 28, 2008