best way is have pure heart towards them and a good listner to them whatever their sorrows or joys or problems are

Answered by Rajesh Goyl , an ibibo Advisor, at 5:54 PM on April 25, 2009

Hearts can be won by loosing heart. i.e. to help others in time.

Answered by ddbb2 , an ibibo Advisor, at 10:17 PM on April 23, 2009

From the Mahabharata, Santi Parva, Sec. LXXXI

Narada said:
Use a weapon that is not made of steel, that is very mild, and yet capable of piercing all hearts. Sharpening and resharpening that weapon correct the tongues of your kinsmen.

The giving of food to the best of your power, forgiveness, sincerity, mildness, and honour to whom honour is due, these constitute a weapon that is not made of steel. With soft words alone turn away the anger of kinsmen about to utter cruel speeches, and mollify their hearts and minds and slanderous tongues.

Nothing but intelligence and forgiveness, restraint of the senses, and liberality are present in a person of wisdom.

Answered by GANGA . , an ibibo Master, at 6:56 PM on April 23, 2009