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What is the paramitire of best friend or friends?

Asked by AKSHAY SHETH in Counselling at 6:49 PM on December 24, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

A best friend will stick to u through out. Even if they lose contact for some time, they will never cease to re join when an opportunity comes. Best friends are there for all good times and bad times,. They never complain or impose themselves. They are a delight and when no body is there, u see them sitting beside u, in silence and close amity.

Answered at 11:57 PM on December 24, 2008

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Is my name AJIT have any meaning, plz tell me?

Asked by ajit sharma in Counselling at 9:10 PM on December 18, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

Ajit means someone who cannot be conquered. I bet u know the meaning urself. U are just asking for asking's sake.

Answered at 3:26 AM on December 19, 2008

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What is the way to avoid troubles? They seem to come in tons and no escape? Why?????????

Asked by Anuradha in Counselling at 7:27 PM on December 07, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

That is life in short!!!!
Read GK Chesterton's article on adventures. When we look at an inconvenient situation like a matter to be resolved and find immense thrill in resolving it, then it is excitable.
But if we look at an adventurous situation as if it is a matter of chaotic pain and cry over it, then it looks like a life of endless trouble, there can be no solace.
What makes a person happy or sad?
If life is considered as a matter of endless adventure, u feel happy to embrace it.
If life is considered as a matter of endless trouble, then u feel sad and disconsolate/
What is a film about?
A film has a hero. What does he do? He resolves a troubled situation. Hie experience is adventure and that is why he is a hero.
People who resolve a troubled situation are heroes
People who find trouble in every situation is a zzzero.
You want to be a zero or a hero( heroine in ur case)?

Answered at 9:44 PM on December 07, 2008

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How do you know if a man is playing with you or he is serious with relationship???

Asked by V V in Marriage at 11:47 AM on November 24, 2008

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A man who is serious will be careful about his behavior towards u. He will like to spend time with u and at the earliest opportunity, he will want to come over to ur house and propose marriage. But a person who is not serious will dilly dally regarding marriage. but he will be always trying to get u to bed. Occasional kissing is ok. But he will wan tto proceed further into the real thing. So frightening. And if u say no, he will get angry and wont mind fighting or breaking the relationship. At any rate, he will give some reasons for not marrying.

Answered at 5:21 PM on November 24, 2008

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Are more people unreasonable or more people reasonable in this world?

Asked by Anuradha in Counselling at 7:26 PM on December 07, 2008

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It is a matter of perception. I come to an office, they give me a room. Other people in the room dont want me there.So they talk to each other and plan to oust me. From my angle they are unreasonable/. From their angle, it is right. Why cant the new person be given another block.Why this room? It spoils our privacy etc...Unless both come to a compromise, there is conflict. That is, till the conflict situation is resolved, there is bound t be the mental conditioning between the two parties that the other is not reasonable. That is all. cheers

Answered at 9:32 PM on December 07, 2008

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Is self aggrandizement an obstacle to objective thinking?

Asked by ramanarayana in Counselling at 7:25 PM on December 05, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

I think you have hit the nail, minnow!
Just as self aggrandizement clouds thinking, self abnegation clears thinking.When there is a problem, if we show self abnegation, we immediately find some solution because the problem will get sorted our on its own.If we show self aggrandizement, the problem expands and becomes more. It is because, we don't see the other person's point of view. Our perceptions get the color of our own thinking and selfishness.

Answered at 3:47 AM on December 06, 2008

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What do you feel as a boon given to women by god? please give an example if possible?

Asked by NIKITHA in Counselling at 5:56 PM on November 14, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

Patience and tenderness if applied can work as twin energies to build a nice little dell of happiness , a little family.It matures into womanliness and makes her the empress of a man's heart, for which he would lay down the entire world under her feet; it is also the wellspring that gives her the forbearance of a mother. That is why I call it a boon. A normal average woman would have been naturally endowed with tenderness. Look at your own self, or compare urself with ur brothers, they have a natural boorishness that would vary in kind as per one's upbringing.
The biggest hell is to be associated with a heartless woman, a mother or wife. The biggest blessing is to be associated with one who is full of motherly tenderness.

Answered at 7:30 PM on November 14, 2008

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I M SO EMOTIONAL BUT TRUE FROM HEART IS IT WELL 4 ME?????????

Asked by vin ni in Counselling at 5:09 PM on November 20, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

U are 18.Girls of this age will be emotional. But be careful. Above all u should pay attention to ur safety, to ur own welfare. There may be people who would try to exploit ur emotional bend of mind to win ur sympathy and get some advantages.Another thing is bad temper. People with emotional mind misunderstand and get angry over trivial. Being true is ok but u will have to be more sober and sedate in order to live ur life with more grace. Try to do pranamayam. IT helps.So take care.

Answered at 3:19 AM on November 21, 2008

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IS Marriage compulsory for a girl? can i live without it? Please counsel me with the advantages and disadvantages of a girl getting married ?

Asked by NIKITHA in Counselling at 11:25 AM on November 12, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

In this modern age where girls tend to earn so well, the question of marrying as a matter of loss of independence does not arise. There is a difference between an unemployed teenage girl marrying and leading a life of total subservience and dependence to her husband/ in laws and an employed well to do girl ,marrying with self dignity and equal status. Even if she does not earn later, after marriage, due to kids etc..she would live with self worth. So if u are free and willing to tie the knot with a "Good" guy(defining a good guy as one who is earning, caring and responsible), go ahead. Or wait for Mr. Right.
If u dont want to expand ur family but just devote ur time for social service, then do that. It will make ur life meaningful too.

Answered at 5:48 PM on November 12, 2008

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Do we get points for answering other categories in sawaal section?Please suggest, I was first to answer in others sections but did not get points?

Asked by Madhu Vamsi in Agony Aunt at 12:23 AM on November 15, 2008

Vida Writer's Answer

No. U don't get points to add to ur current total. But u do get some points. The moment it increases and becomes higher than one of ur categories, it will replace that particular category.
For eg, i usually dont answer agony aunt. But i would get points for this answer. Since it will be lower than all my categories, it wont be shown in the points earned section. The moment it becomes greater than one of my categories, it would be shown.But some other category with least points that was mine till now would not be shown.
cheers

Answered at 3:16 AM on November 15, 2008

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