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10:35 PM on September 28, 2008
Shelke's Answer
Hi Anuradha
My opinion may hurt you but let me tell you the fact. My perspective is not like all these members. Their opinion / answer are based on sympathy.
I know little bit about you. I read about you and your questions asked on ibibo. That’s why I am writing you this way.
Coming to point, Anuradha parents have their duty or responsibility till the marriage or before this kind of question doesn't come only. They are parents. Till the last breathe of life they will taker care of their children.
Your parents are growing old. In fact they need someone to take care of them. Still when you will be there at your parent’s house, they will take care of you and your kids too. Even though they are not able to do. But they won't shrink their hand from that. Don’t make them to feel ashamed by asking such kind of question.
It’s you who has to decide whether you want your parents to take responsibility or you will take their responsibility. I hope you understood what I mean to say. You are capable of taking their responsibility of all if not then make yourselves of that capability.
Second thing is about your husband. When a man and a woman get married they have equal responsibilities. Responsibilities including everything mean everything. It could be parents, family or it may be children. Yes! Definitely husband has to take more responsibilities than wife. If he fails then he is guilty (but depend upon that times circumstances).
But in your case it was difference between you and your husband. And due to some circumstances you took the decision to leave your house. Your parents didn't call you at their house. You decided to go to their place. It means you are responsible this. You have no rights to ask your parents to take you and your kids’ responsibilities.
Your husband will say I never asked you to leave it’s her decision so she must take care of herself and kids too. Otherwise I would have done the job very well. This way he will shrink his hands from the responsibilities.
In one of your previous question said that I gave two children to him still he do wrong things to you. Anuradha I would like to ask you one thing those are not yours?????????????? They are. They are not any product or any articles they are your own children. Please don't say such things. They are part of your life. Its fact even you can't live without them. Then you don't have say that
Considering above things I conclude it’s your responsibility to do for yourselves as well as your kids.
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In my opinion you have no rights to ask ' you and your children are whose responsibility?'
Don’t try to gain sympathy and mercy of people like me and other that won't solve your problem. Be IRONIC LADY and take decisions and finish it of once for all.
I have seen so many similar kind of examples. They are successful now they don’t have to depend upon any one they are in fact proudly living their life.
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12:33 AM on September 30, 2008
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