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10:42 PM on April 12, 2008
Rekha's Answer
Time is usually the only way to overcome failed love. Yes, it hurts when you deeply love. It is better to have deeply and passionately loved then not at all.
The feeling of despair and loss is normal and even feeling like life is over what is the point and the desire to end it all. However, it solves nothing but the end of your life and she goes on with hers. So do not look to that as a solution.
Why did you fall in love? You felt that moment when you are so deeply in love it sometimes causes temporary insanity and get overwhelmed with the giddy feeling of closeness to another human being. You felt it was well worth the risk to sacrifice a piece of your soul and heart.
As terrible and raw as a break-up is to the mind and soul, please do not allow this moment to take a foot hold in your life and not risk it again. Remember the old saying, "Practice makes perfect?" Well sometimes us humans need a few tries (some of us need a whole lot of them) to learn from our old relationship experience to seek out what it is we want in a mate or what mistakes we made in the relationship.
So after you have taken some time to grieve for your loss, then take some time to reflect on the relationship and determine how you can make the next one better. I discovered after what I thought was a terrible loss that it was not as healthy a relationship as I thought it was and in the end I was better off for no longer being in it.
Also, after I changed my habits and the characteristics of what attracted me after several years of very bad and failed relationships, I learned from the old mistakes and ended up in a loving, compromising relationship that is healthy. We each compliment and enhance each other without forcing our will onto each other with effort.
Good luck and much prayers on your transition.
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1:08 PM on April 13, 2008
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