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is it ok to have sex before marriage.i want sensible answers since the age of marriage is far from when u start to get sexual urge so what to do is it ethical

Asked by atul b in Fertility at 1:05 PM on February 29, 2008

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Sex before marriage? abstinence works!

Waiting until marriage to have sex is the best way to enjoy life as God intended. There are good reasons behind God’s instruction which improves relationship building and also safeguards our physical, mental and spiritual health. Avoiding sex before marriage is possible by seeking out the strength of Christ.

This article has been written by John Kidson (Dip. Theology/Ministry, ACT; B. Counselling, UNE), Simon Rose and Rebecca Martin.

God has given us many things richly to enjoy and some guidelines as well. He has defined some areas as ‘no go zones’ as far as our behaviour is concerned. Essentially all God’s rules are for our benefit. Nowhere is this more clearly seen than in the way he has given one of his greatest gifts: human sexuality.

This is a ‘relational’ gift: ideally one woman and one man relate for life in all ways and not least at the sexual level. New humans are formed by a couple’s relating and their relationship sustains and enriches the whole of their lives. The Bible is quite clear about aspects that need to be part of such a relationship and just as clear about what should not be included. Commitment, faithfulness and the general potential for children rank as high positives. Aggression, lust and promiscuousness are all strong negatives.

Abstinence from sex until marriage is key for building an intimate and long lasting relationship. It draws two people closer together emotionally and is a special time when each person can spend time getting to know one another. The desire to avoid sex before marriage encourages self control which ultimately demonstrates trust to a partner. In turn this trust allows vulnerability towards each other producing a fruitful and intimate relationship.

A relationship with a regular pattern of worldly lust draws attention away from a true and deep relationship because lust is selfish. A truly satisfying relationship is expressed where one is mindful of the other in selfless thought and action. Lust is harmful because it seeks objects of desire to please oneself first and often without regard to the consequences. Promiscuity is part of lust, that degrades trust because it lacks self control and tends to view sex and people more casually. Sex is a sacred and beautiful part of marriage, and shouldn’t be seen as a casual act to satisfy superficial desires and insecurities.

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Can oral sex spread herpes?

Asked by preeti27 in Sexual Health at 2:52 PM on December 10, 2007

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any people are unclear on the risks associated with oral sex. Questions about oral sex and the risk of contracting an STD are very common in outreaches and at the SHPRC. Many people engage in unprotected oral sex, and are particularly concerned with the risks associated with not using protection.

What are the risks:

* Herpes is probably the biggest STD risk during oral sex. Both strains of herpes can live in the mouth or the genitals, and particularly during outbreaks (cold sores, herpes lesions) can be passed from one place to the other. Many people have oral herpes, more than 50% of a random group of people will have antibodies to the virus (indicating some level of infection). Having oral herpes for most people is no big deal, a cold sore during times of stress or illness is usually little more than an annoyance. Genital herpes can be more complicated and uncomfortable, but there are treatments (see Herpes Fact Sheet for more info). Care should be taken so that oral herpes are not passed to anyone’s genitals. In general it is not a good idea to have unprotected oral sex while any lesions are present.
* Chlamydia and gonorrhea can infect your throat, strep like symptoms, and are curable with antibiotics. These can also infect the eye, and though rare, eye infections can have serious consequences, so be careful with fluids.
* HIV can be passed through unprotected oral sex, but it is more likely to be passed during unprotected penetrative sex. The infected semen/precum or vaginal fluid must enter the body through a cut or sore in the mouth or esophagus. The virus is unlikely to be passed from a person’s mouth to another person’s genitals.
* HPV can be passed during oral sex, but it is rare. HPV has been found on vocal chords.
* Syphilis can be passed similar to HIV. Syphilis is curable.
* Hepatitis A is a risk particularly in oral-anal sex, and people engaging in this unprotected might want to look into getting a Hep A vaccine. Hep A is not a chronic condition like Hep B and C, but can make a person quite sick several weeks.

Reducing Risks:

* To reduce the risk of infection during unprotected oral sex, limit exposure to sexual fluids and ensure that no cuts or lesions are present in mouth or on genitals.
* Use barrier methods — though many people feel that barrier methods detract from oral sex, they are very effective at preventing STD transmission:
o Oral-penile sex: Male condom, no spermicide (kills taste buds), flavored condoms are available.
o Oral-vaginal sex: Dental dams (aka Lollys) — can buy them, or you can use non-microwaveable saran wrap, or cut up a latex glove.
o Oral-anal sex: Dental dams, non-microwaveable saran wrap, cut up latex glove
* Spit or swallow? Limiting exposure to semen reduces risk of infection, so ejaculation away from partner’s body is the safest. That said, the mouth is the place most likely to contract something like HIV, so the conventional wisdom is, “swallow or spit, just don’t let it sit.”

Answered at 10:19 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [3]

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I have a problem, on my top of the penis a vain is appering in a question mark shape, it is not pain but appering v bad, i allready married and have 1 son

Asked by pasha in Sexual Health at 3:00 PM on December 10, 2007

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Mondor's disease of the penis. It is thrombophlebitis of the superficial dorsal vein of the penis.The main cause of the disease is frequent or prolonged intercourse. Other causes are enumerated in box 1. Thrombophlebitis of the superficial dorsal vein of the penis is a benign disease. Clinical and experimental evidence from previous reports suggests that stretching and torsion of the vein resulting from genital trauma leads to endothelial damage and thrombosis. Thrombophlebitis of the superficial dorsal penile vein can be divided into three clinical stages: acute, subacute, and chronic.

The majority of the cases of Mondor's disease of the penis are treated conservatively. The acute stage has been treated in a variety of ways with anti-inflammatory agents, anticoagulant drugs, and antibiotics with good results. For subacute and chronic stages, most have used anti-inflammatory agents and local heparin creams. Most cases resolve in four to six weeks

Answered at 10:18 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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What is paternity testing?

Asked by chocolatee in Sexual Health at 3:29 PM on December 11, 2007

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Types of Paternity Testing:

* Postnatal (after your child’s birth) DNA testing:
o Blood collection and testing
o Buccal swab (cheek swab) collection and testing
o Umbilical cord collection and testing
o Other sample collection and testing (semen, tissue, hair, etc.)
* Prenatal (before your child’s birth) DNA testing:
o Amniocentesis: This test is performed in the second trimester, anywhere from the 14th-20th weeks of pregnancy. During this procedure, the doctor uses ultrasound to guide a thin needle into your uterus, through your abdomen. The needle draws out a small amount of amniotic fluid, which is tested. Risks include a small chance of harming the baby and miscarriage. Other side effects may include cramping, leaking of amniotic fluid, and vaginal bleeding. A doctor's consent is needed to do this procedure for paternity testing.
o Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS): This test consists of a thin needle or tube which a doctor inserts from the vagina, through the cervix, guided by an ultrasound, to obtain chorionic villi. Chorionic villi are little finger-like pieces of tissue attached to the wall of the uterus. The chorionic villi and the fetus come from the same fertilized egg, and have the same genetic makeup. This testing can be done earlier in pregnancy from the 10th-13th weeks. A doctor's consent is needed to do this procedure for paternity testing.

How soon can we start the testing process? DNA testing can be done as early as the end of the first trimester of pregnancy, starting in the 10th week by the CVS procedure.

It is a rule of most DNA laboratories to keep your results completely confidential. Speak with each laboratory individually on their policies concerning confidentiality.

Testing conducted after a baby’s birth involves no known risks. Prenatal DNA testing done in conjunction with other prenatal testing involves some risk associated with how the testing is conducted, whether amniocentesis or CVS. These tests are often discouraged for the sole reason of seeking paternity because of the increased miscarriage risks.

Many women have questions about the date of possible conception, and unfortunately figuring this out is not always so easy. The assumption is that if a woman has pretty regular menstrual cycles, then she will be ovulating during a certain time of the month. Ovulation is the time when conception can take place because that is when an egg is made available.

The problem is that most women do not ovulate on an exact date each month, and many women have a different ovulation day from month to month. If you also take into account that sperm can live in the body 3-5 days after intercourse has taken place, this can make figuring out conception very difficult.

Most doctors use the first day of the last period (LMP) and ultrasound measurements to gage the gestational age of a baby and determine when the baby was conceived. But these are just tools used to estimate the dates—it is very hard for anything to tell what the exact date of conception really is. Most people do not realize that ultrasounds can be off up to 5-7 days in early pregnancy and up to a couple weeks off if the first ultrasounds are done farther into the second trimester or beyond.

Due dates are not an accurate tool for determining conception since they also are only an estimation date (only 5% of women give birth on their due dates).

If you are seeking the estimated date of conception for paternity reasons, and intercourse with two different partners took place within 10 days of each other, we strongly encourage that paternity testing be done; this testing can be done during pregnancy or after the baby is born. This is the only way to accurately know who the father is.

How much does it cost to establish paternity? Costs will vary dependent on which types of procedures are performed. Prices can range from $250.00 to

Answered at 10:13 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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What is genital warts? How one get that?

Asked by sumitsehgal in Sexual Health at 4:11 PM on December 11, 2007

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Human papillomavirus (HPV) is one of the most common causes of sexually transmitted infection (STI) in the world. Health experts estimate there are more cases of genital HPV infection than any other STI in the United States. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), approximately 6.2 million new cases of sexually transmitted HPV infections are reported every year. At least 20 million people in this country are already infected.
Genital warts

Genital warts (sometimes called condylomata acuminata or venereal warts) are the most easily recognized sign of genital HPV infection. Many people, however, have a genital HPV infection without genital warts.

Genital warts are soft, moist, or flesh colored and appear in the genital area within weeks or months after infection. They sometimes appear in clusters that resemble cauliflower-like bumps, and are either raised or flat, small or large. Genital warts can show up in women on the vulva and cervix, and inside and surrounding the vagina and anus. In men, genital warts can appear on the scrotum or penis. There are cases where genital warts have been found on the thigh and groin.Genital warts are very contagious. You can get them during oral, vaginal, or anal sex with an infected partner. You can also get them by skin-to-skin contact during vaginal, anal, or (rarely) oral sex with someone who is infected. About two-thirds of people who have sexual contact with a partner with genital warts will develop warts, usually within 3 months of contact.

If you are infected but have no symptoms, you can still spread HPV to your sexual partner and/or develop complications from the virus.

Answered at 10:09 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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Can kissing and smooching lead to oral infections?

Asked by deepika26 in Sexual Health at 9:59 PM on December 14, 2007

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list of diseases tranmissible by kissing
B
# Bacterial meningitis ... saliva, kissing
C
# Chronic Hepatitis B ... bodily fluids
# Cold sores ... saliva, kissing
# Common cold ... kissing
# Contagious Diseases ... saliva, kissing
# Cytomegalovirus ... saliva, kissing
TopD
# Diseases contagious from kissing ... saliva, kissing
# Diseases contagious from saliva ... saliva, kissing
TopE
# Epstein-Barr virus ... saliva, kissing, kissing
TopH
# Hepatitis B ... bodily fluids
TopM
# Meningitis ... saliva, kissing
# Molluscum contagiosum ... saliva
# Mononucleosis ... saliva, kissing, kissing
TopP
# Polio ... saliva

Answered at 9:56 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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Which is the best position to have sex during pregnancy?

Asked by deepika26 in Sexual Health at 9:56 PM on December 14, 2007

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If you're pregnant, or just found out you were, you're probably wondering what the best pregnant sex positions are. Because your body doesn't change that much in the first trimester, sex can pretty much continue as it has in the past so there really isn't a need to be concerned about pregnant positions for sex. Later, however, as the uterus grows, some natural positions may become more difficult to perform and will require you to choose better sex positions while pregnant. Sex expert Pepper Schwartz, PhD, offers these suggestions on the best pregnant sex positions:

Spoon: The spoon position can be very cozy and intimate. In this case you should lie on your side curled in a C, with your partner facing your back and curled around you. He then enters your vagina from behind while both of you are lying on your sides.

Side by side: Another good choice for late pregnancy, this position will control thrust and keep weight off your belly. You and your husband lie side by side, facing each other. He slips his leg over yours (your leg can be either straight and to the side or bent at the knee) and enters you from an angle. In a variation of this, you lie on your back and he on his side. Put your leg that's closest to him over his legs. He can enter you from the back and side, and still have his face next to yours.

Woman on top: This can be a satisfying position during late pregnancy, allowing you to control pacing and be more comfortable. Make sure, however, that he doesn't enter you too deeply.

Edge of the bed: Try lying down face-up on the edge of the bed, with your legs spread and the soles of your feet on the floor. Your partner can stand or bend over you. This position, however, does allow him to thrust more deeply, so you'll have to tell him how gentle and slow you want him to be.

If you find that intercourse is too uncomfortable as your belly grows, explore other types of sexual gratification, such as oral sex (don't blow air into the vagina) or mutual masturbation.

Answered at 9:59 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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What is NACO?

Asked by dranil in Sexual Health at 2:19 PM on December 13, 2007

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Nodal organisation for formulation of policy and implementation of programs for prevention and control of HIV/AIDS.

Answered at 10:01 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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Are iron pills must for pregnant women?

Asked by chinikum in Sexual Health at 6:48 PM on December 12, 2007

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Women often become anaemic during pregnancy because the demand for iron and other vitamins is increased. The mother must increase her production of red blood cells and, in addition, the foetus and placenta need their own supply of iron, which can only be obtained from the mother.

In order to have enough red blood cells for the foetus, the body starts to produce more red blood cells and plasma. It has been calculated that the blood volume increases approximately 50 per cent during the pregnancy, although the plasma amount is disproportionately greater. This causes a dilution of the blood, making the haemoglobin concentration fall. This is a normal process, with the haemoglobin concentration at its lowest between weeks 25 and 30. The pregnant woman may need additional iron supplementation, and a blood test called serum ferritin is the best way of monitoring this.

Pregnancy increases the need for iron in the diet. The developing foetus draws enough iron from the mother to last it through the first five or six months after birth so a woman has an increased need for iron during pregnancy.

Iron losses are reduced during pregnancy because women are no longer menstruating and so lose less iron from menstrual blood loss. It is useful to include foods that are good sources of iron in the diet every day (for example red meat) and to have foods that are good sources of vitamin C (like oranges) to help absorb the iron.

The recommended daily intake (RDI) of iron during pregnancy is 27mg per day (approximately 9mg per day more than that for non-pregnant women). The amount needed depends on the amount of iron the mother has ‘stored’ in her body prior to pregnancy. If a woman’s iron stores are very low, she may need to get more from supplements. However, iron supplements can cause constipation.

Answered at 10:06 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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What is HPV?

Asked by rajbirbond35 in Sexual Health at 7:10 PM on December 12, 2007

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What is genital HPV infection?

Genital HPV infection is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) that is caused by human papillomavirus (HPV). Human papillomavirus is the name of a group of viruses that includes more than 100 different strains or types. More than 30 of these viruses are sexually transmitted, and they can infect the genital area of men and women including the skin of the penis, vulva (area outside the vagina), or anus, and the linings of the vagina, cervix, or rectum. Most people who become infected with HPV will not have any symptoms and will clear the infection on their own.

Some of these viruses are called "high-risk" types, and may cause abnormal Pap tests. They may also lead to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, anus, or penis. Others are called "low-risk" types, and they may cause mild Pap test abnormalities or genital warts. Genital warts are single or multiple growths or bumps that appear in the genital area, and sometimes are cauliflower shaped.

How common is HPV?

Approximately 20 million people are currently infected with HPV. At least 50 percent of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives. By age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. About 6.2 million Americans get a new genital HPV infection each year.

How do people get genital HPV infections?

The types of HPV that infect the genital area are spread primarily through genital contact. Most HPV infections have no signs or symptoms; therefore, most infected persons are unaware they are infected, yet they can transmit the virus to a sex partner. Rarely, a pregnant woman can pass HPV to her baby during vaginal delivery. A baby that is exposed to HPV very rarely develops warts in the throat or voice box.

What are the signs and symptoms of genital HPV

Most people who have a genital HPV infection do not know they are infected. The virus lives in the skin or mucous membranes and usually causes no symptoms. Some people get visible genital warts, or have pre-cancerous changes in the cervix, vulva, anus, or penis. Very rarely, HPV infection results in anal or genital cancers.

Genital warts usually appear as soft, moist, pink, or flesh-colored swellings, usually in the genital area. They can be raised or flat, single or multiple, small or large, and sometimes cauliflower shaped. They can appear on the vulva, in or around the vagina or anus, on the cervix, and on the penis, scrotum, groin, or thigh. After sexual contact with an infected person, warts may appear within weeks or months, or not at all.

Genital warts are diagnosed by visual inspection. Visible genital warts can be removed by medications the patient applies, or by treatments performed by a health care provider. Some individuals choose to forego treatment to see if the warts will disappear on their own. No treatment regimen for genital warts is better than another, and no one treatment regimen is ideal for all cases.

How is genital HPV infection diagnosed?

Most women are diagnosed with HPV on the basis of abnormal Pap tests. A Pap test is the primary cancer-screening tool for cervical cancer or pre-cancerous changes in the cervix, many of which are related to HPV. Also, a specific test is available to detect HPV DNA in women. The test may be used in women with mild Pap test abnormalities, or in women >30 years of age at the time of Pap testing. The results of HPV DNA testing can help health care providers decide if further tests or treatment are necessary.

No HPV tests are available for men.

Is there a cure for HPV?

There is no "cure" for HPV infection, although in most women the infection goes away on its own. The treatments provided are directed to the changes in the skin or mucous membrane caused by HPV infection, such as warts and pre-cancerous changes

Answered at 10:04 PM on December 19, 2007 | Read Comments [0]

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