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2:31 AM on August 08, 2008
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Since u hv identified the problem and r committed to improving things, it will be easier....u will need to do some mental exercises at a time when there is no mental stress....imagine ur self in a situation which requires u to respond, and things r not going as u want them, and that u r responding exactly as u want, i.e., patiently, with understanding, and empathy...and then imagine that ur facial expression and body language is conveying this ... when u get into this mould in an artificial manner, and make a habit of it, then u can use these memories at a time when u r mentally stressed and finding urself losing ur patience again....u also need to be able to identify the moments when u do lose patience, even before u actually do, by identifying the bodily reactions...for example, just before u lose ur patience, u may be experiencing uncomfortable sensations, such as increased sweating, hot flashes, discomfort in ur upper abdomen, dryness of ur throat, and other sensations...by learning how to identify the moments when u do lose ur patience, u initiate the process by which u can control ur reactions...All these will happen slowly, with constant practise, and u should expect initial failures...these methods I hv culled from my knowledge of NeuroLinguistic Programming, Emotional Intelligence, and the Art of Communication...u could read free articles on these topics on the net and also some books on them to help u in this process.
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