I've always believed that the emotion in marriage-that of love-can only b based on knowing each other throughly; my wife was opposite, and she'd say 'I love u' even at the beginning..initially, I snubbed her, and told her she doesn't mean it....that hurt her, and she felt I was a very unromantic guy...then my real feelings developed, and I began expressing myself...and this was a pleasant surprise for her, and she realised really how romantic I cud b...now, 10 yrs down, there is more romance and love in our marriage than initially...bcoz v really feel it and express it, and not just mouth some platitudes or hopes (as she was doing initially)...as for marriages, in general, I hv seen enough no. of marriages where there is no love, some marriages where there is a kind of tolerance, where the two ppl hv given up, face away and don't bother, and so on..and there r many relationships where u can't make out, the couple r very practical and keep a good front, but no one really know what kind of relation they hv...when I entered this relation, I hd confidence in myself..to me a little attractiveness in the female is important, but far more imp is that she should be principled and honest like me, and now I hv perfect faith in her that way, so I hv a kind of firm love for her...which could only come after many yrs of knowing her and observing her...to answer ur question, I don't think it is just the passage of time that does it (though that is imp)...it had more to do with our personalities, attitudes, natures, temperaments, in addition to passage of time..so love does increase or decrease in marriage with time, but whether it will increase or decrease will depend on all the other factors....
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Dr Raj
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7:15 AM on July 06, 2008