find out where the damage is then fix it

Answered by khurshid , an ibibo Citizen, at 9:07 AM on September 07, 2008

Fixing relationship problems may very well be the most trying event that most people will ever take on. Toxic relationships can cause years of pain and lead to a destructive cycle of bad health. Stress, anxiety and pent up anger are all outcomes of relationship problems that tax an individuals every day life. There are healthy ways to overcome common relationship issues though. The couple must look at this as a step by step process and dedicate the time as well as patience with one another to see the relationship through.
Dealing with relationship issues before they turn into a full range explosion is the best course of action. Many couples try to ignore little irritants over a period of months, maybe even years and eventually explode. Now this may seemingly prevent small arguments along the way, but the real problem is that over time the couple builds up resentment. This causes every incident or annoyance to turn into an all out war over something that is really insignificant. That is because the underlying anger and hurt come to the surface every time something happens because it has never been mended or overcome by the couple. Fixing problems as they surface can help the couple stay together for a much longer time.
Another way to fix relationship problems is to find a confidant or close friend that you can speak openly with. Keep in mind that this person needs to be someone that will not sabotage your relationship out of jealousy or hold it over your head when you and your partner repair the relationship. Having someone that you can talk to is not only healthy for you personally, but also the relationship. This gives you a chance to express concerns, angers and other emotions to someone other than your lover. This allows a cooling down period and also a time for you to sort through the issues without blowing up at your partner. The harsh words and fights are generally the product of an under thought or unplanned conversation over hurt feelings.
Try to always keep a positive attitude and understand that love can be repaired even when all seems to be lost. If there is a spark of love between the couple it can be built on and expanded back into a healthy relationship. Now that is not to say that the couple does not need help with the relationship or a great deal of work; just that it is possible. There are tons or resources to help with failing relationships, they range from mediators, counselors, relationship experts as well as many more. The couple can seek them together and is much easier than trying to win back love after letting it go!

Answered by Ramcharan , an ibibo Master, at 5:37 PM on September 06, 2008

Bad relationship can be reconciled by dialoques and meetings. you can add few people on both sides during the meeting of both parties. When you do it with open mind without prejuduce the meeting becomes result oriented.

Answered by Sachin Samy , an ibibo Master, at 8:32 PM on September 03, 2008

By working on it. A bad relationship gets worse with every passing day. When we start to be bad, there's no end to it. Instead , we should start thinking positive ... and try to repair as much distrust we can by your own initiative. Take the help of friends and relatives in case you want to. And never hesitate to speak on this matter ... for conversations can correct many inconsistencies.

Answered by Idle Mind , an ibibo Master, at 6:01 PM on August 25, 2008

With difficulties :( Iv always been heartbroken after a bad relationship iv always put too much into a relationship.
I just keep occupied and try not to listen to music or go places where i went with my ex.
If i start thinking about it i make sure i rememeber the bad things it helps because if i think of the few good times we had(only a few)then it makes me worse and i get those horrible pains in the pit of my stomach.

Answered by Rahul , an ibibo Citizen, at 6:06 PM on August 22, 2008