Boys are so loving and caring to their loving girl before marriage but after marriage y thr love vanish?  

The vanishing theory can be proved by many factors, mostly mid-life-crisis or the general mismatch between the couple. But they should not be taken as the majority trend. There are many couples who are related and tied to each other for too long. Most Indian couple are like that only.

Another reason why the love may appear gone is the reduction of attraction in staying together for uneventful or dull family life often makes one or both tired. Coupled with attention to other family concerns like attending to other household chores makes life monotonous and creates rupture.

It's not that such tendencies are natural, some do have it, but it should not be taken as a conscious and a normal phenomenon in every married couple.

Answered by Idle Mind , an ibibo Master, at 4:57 PM on November 26, 2008

There are three stages of love and respect between a boy and a girl viz, (a) pre-engagement, (b) engagement and (c) marriage. Although there is love in all three stages; but emotion, spirit, necessity and nature of talks are different.
Those normal commitments in love are,
1. Both the partners have to be confident on each other.
2. With same taste and interests are mine.
3. There should be fidelity.
4. Both should feel secured.
5. Both are known to each other approachable for any advice or any need.
6. Both are confident and trustworthy.
In all three stages they need to talk and love. However, after engagement, both are free from anxieties of uncertainty. Therefore, their talks limit to solemnization of marriage.
Thereafter, when marriage is over, both of them face certain common responsibilities. They have to confine to those responsibilities and commitments more than to spend time on making love. As a result they become more or less practical. Circumstances make them limit to such situation..

Answered by Ramcharan , an ibibo Master, at 11:17 PM on November 24, 2008

Love does not vanish after marriage , you don't have to stop loving your spouse even after you find out that there may be a problem in the marriage but love is everlasting. You have to do things in the marriage that will keep it alive, a boring mariage may seems like love has vanished but with different approaches in life you can bring back love to the mariage. Be spotaneous, don't have the same type of things going on each day of your life. Seek for counsel when you feel that there is a problem.
Love is like making deposits into a bank account. You love someone because of the way they make you feel, the things they do for you. We may hurt each other along the way, but as long as those deposits and more than the occasional withdrawal, love will prevail.

Answered by Shampa 2007 , an ibibo Master, at 10:34 PM on November 24, 2008

Ohh its almost impossible to understand guys!!!them seem simple but they actually aren't.I think the main reason is that after marriage the guy knows the girl is "HIS" so no risk of break up or anything,its like he starts taking her for granted and thinks its granted that the girl think he loves him so the hubby just stops repeating i love u or increases a lot of the affectionable gestures to say "i love u or i care for u".In this way it seems the love has disappeared but don't worry its not vanished,he simply doesn't have time to show it cos of responsibilities(a problem for girls but sometimes a bit of compromises r needed).I think still it doesnt need to look forward from the lover/husband small things to know they do love us,like candle light dinners,chocolates,flowers,soft toys etc...love just reflects in the person's eyes,u just need to see it,with heart not just eyes.

Answered by %2AMani %2A , an ibibo Advisor, at 8:23 PM on November 24, 2008

It is nothing like that. It depends on an individual. If he behaves properly even after marriage, then he is always loving and caring.

Answered by Kamlesh B , an ibibo Specialist, at 7:14 PM on November 24, 2008

love can nvr ever vanish...a guy marries you after having a pre marital affair with you,itself is an indication that how serious he was for you and how much he loves you ........thts why he decided to be with you always!!
its juz tht the responsibility of d guy rises high n that responsibility only makes him the way that he is not that free to express you love now n then .....girls must understand n respect their feeling of responsibility !cos he wont behave as a boyfrn now,he vl b a dad n a hubby as well!

Answered by nitika at 5:14 PM on November 24, 2008

Love need not be expressed always . It can't too. Before marriage boys responsiblities are meagre. At that time he need only express how sincerely he love the girl by chatting with her or assuring his love etc. But after marriage he realises what real life is . He has to work hard to earn to look after his wife and children . He concentrate more on earning for wife children rather than chatting with them. Here love never vanishes, but expressed as responsibility.

Answered by Priyarajan , an ibibo Specialist, at 3:02 PM on November 24, 2008

LOVE NEVER VANISHES, BUT IT IS NOT SEEN THROUGH YOUR EYES AFTER MARRIAGE.

This is because men normally hit workplace on a regular basis. Before marriage, they desperately want to allocate time for their loved ones to meet / chat. But after marriage, they are in constant touch with their loved one and they very well know the fact that their loved one is there for him forever together. So they tend to concentrate more at their work. This is a normal tendency of every human. Think about it from his point of view and you will feel that love still remains.

Answered by Prattu , an ibibo Advisor, at 2:41 PM on November 24, 2008

No dear.. Love doesn't vanish.. the responsibility of boy increases after marriage beacause of that he cannot behave her wife as a bachelor. Love remain the same but the method of expressing love changed.

Answered by Saroj Rawat , an ibibo Citizen, at 1:49 PM on November 24, 2008

Love is not something which will vanish.. It is undying..

Love is giving... caring...sharing.. longing

We always look for certain expressions for love... Love is beyond all expessions..

Answered by Gopal , an ibibo Citizen, at 1:42 PM on November 24, 2008