Start loving others as yourself. You won't get anger on others.
If you get angry on yourself, start loving yourself.
The ill effects of anger is many: it starts killing yourself inside and affects your performance.
When you know it's bad to get angry, then why practicing it by getting angry??
Just make a decison that you want to leave it, and you will leave it. It's so simple...it's all in your mind and heart! Try it out. Have a anger-free life...good for you ..good for others...good for the wellness of the world!!!

Answered by PersonalCoun , an ibibo Citizen, at 2:03 AM on July 05, 2008

hi there

Five free tips from Sound Feelings help release anger to improve emotional and physical health.
Give Yourself Permission to Express Anger.

Our society does not allow us to express strong emotions. We are taught to hold in our emotions from the earliest age. This can have a profoundly negative effect on our overall health. It’s not wrong to express anger, fear, sadness, rage. In fact, it is healthy to release these emotions regularly. What’s wrong is when we hurt someone in the process. It is preferable to find safe ways to dump the negative feelings.

2 Combine Mental and Physical Effort.

Mental therapy alone may be extremely helpful for anger release, but it can only take you so far. Similarly, the physical act of doing exercise can help many people let off steam, but it may not remove deep-seated anger.

The most effective process is when you can combine both the mental and physical effort. This is when you do a particular physical activity along with the mental intention of releasing the anger. Please see the next step for specific examples of how to combine the mental and physical effort to help release your anger. In each example, don’t just pound pillows, or rip paper, but REALLY FEEL the heavy anger emotion with it’s full intensity WHILE you do the physical activity. This is so important and will assist you to finally RELEASE the anger energy so that it won’t come back. You may have to do the process repeatedly because it releases layer by layer and it is doubtful that you will get to all of it in one session. There are many studies recently showing that doing this type of activity could possibly MAKE someone more aggressive. This is a complicated issue. Let’s say that the type of people who hold in their anger their whole life NEED to learn to become more aggressive in order to become balanced. It is important to learn how to not be a doormat and have people walk all over you. It is important to speak up for what you believe and not take garbage from everyone. So, indeed, if this behavior makes a person RELATIVELY more aggressive, it is in the vein of becoming whole, and that is a good thing! However, please realize if you are already an explosive person who throws temper tantrums and becomes violent, then this approach is NOT appropriate! This recommendation is more appropriate for the “quiet anger” that a person keeps inside for many years. This is the anger that causes physical illnesses, sleep disturbances and other stress-related conditions. Getting the anger out in these cases is extremely therapeutic.

3 Never Hurt Others in the Process.

Give yourself the opportunity to express anger in a safe way, without hurting anyone else. Most people will benefit by having a private room to pound pillows with their fists or legs, or with a plastic bat. Some people may prefer ripping pages of paper, screaming, throwing plates (old ones). Many people find it helpful to use anger-release music as a stimulus or catalyst for this process. Remember, NEVER hurt yourself in the process and never aim your anger literally at another person. What is important here is your expression of the negative emotion, NOT who receives it. If the anger (or other emotion) is traced to a specific individual, some people have found it helpful to have a symbol of this person at which they can direct the anger. This could be an enlarged photocopy of a photo on a piece of paper which you then scribble-over, tear, burn, or otherwise destroy. Be open to discovering your own dynamic anger-release method.

Answered by Reeta K , an ibibo Master, at 12:46 PM on June 24, 2008

hi shivam... its gud that u comes to know ur week point (which is not allways week) and want to control it.

now try my sugetion if u like....

try to avoid do the things which u dunt like n which increase anger level in urself. like if discussion on a perticular issue increase ur anger than try that not to dissciss on that....

when u feel that ur anger is increasing bcoz of some talk or with some persons presence than leave that place immidiatly...

the best option is drink the water at that time and take deep breath and count 1 to 10 ..... i assure u this will b very helpfull to implement ur decision of controlling.

Answered by Vinu4u- , an ibibo Citizen, at 5:44 PM on June 17, 2008

Five free tips from Sound Feelings help release anger to improve emotional and physical health.
Give Yourself Permission to Express Anger.

Our society does not allow us to express strong emotions. We are taught to hold in our emotions from the earliest age. This can have a profoundly negative effect on our overall health. It’s not wrong to express anger, fear, sadness, rage. In fact, it is healthy to release these emotions regularly. What’s wrong is when we hurt someone in the process. It is preferable to find safe ways to dump the negative feelings.

2 Combine Mental and Physical Effort.

Mental therapy alone may be extremely helpful for anger release, but it can only take you so far. Similarly, the physical act of doing exercise can help many people let off steam, but it may not remove deep-seated anger.

The most effective process is when you can combine both the mental and physical effort. This is when you do a particular physical activity along with the mental intention of releasing the anger. Please see the next step for specific examples of how to combine the mental and physical effort to help release your anger. In each example, don’t just pound pillows, or rip paper, but REALLY FEEL the heavy anger emotion with it’s full intensity WHILE you do the physical activity. This is so important and will assist you to finally RELEASE the anger energy so that it won’t come back. You may have to do the process repeatedly because it releases layer by layer and it is doubtful that you will get to all of it in one session. There are many studies recently showing that doing this type of activity could possibly MAKE someone more aggressive. This is a complicated issue. Let’s say that the type of people who hold in their anger their whole life NEED to learn to become more aggressive in order to become balanced. It is important to learn how to not be a doormat and have people walk all over you. It is important to speak up for what you believe and not take garbage from everyone. So, indeed, if this behavior makes a person RELATIVELY more aggressive, it is in the vein of becoming whole, and that is a good thing! However, please realize if you are already an explosive person who throws temper tantrums and becomes violent, then this approach is NOT appropriate! This recommendation is more appropriate for the “quiet anger” that a person keeps inside for many years. This is the anger that causes physical illnesses, sleep disturbances and other stress-related conditions. Getting the anger out in these cases is extremely therapeutic.

3 Never Hurt Others in the Process.

Give yourself the opportunity to express anger in a safe way, without hurting anyone else. Most people will benefit by having a private room to pound pillows with their fists or legs, or with a plastic bat. Some people may prefer ripping pages of paper, screaming, throwing plates (old ones). Many people find it helpful to use anger-release music as a stimulus or catalyst for this process. Remember, NEVER hurt yourself in the process and never aim your anger literally at another person. What is important here is your expression of the negative emotion, NOT who receives it. If the anger (or other emotion) is traced to a specific individual, some people have found it helpful to have a symbol of this person at which they can direct the anger. This could be an enlarged photocopy of a photo on a piece of paper which you then scribble-over, tear, burn, or otherwise destroy. Be open to discovering your own dynamic anger-release method.

4 Totally Let Go, Without Hesitation.

It is also important to suggest that if you feel the need to express yourself in any of these ways, that you either are totally alone so that you don’t feel inhibited, or that you are in the surroundings of a group of people who are supportive of this type of activity. If you don’t have a private room in your house, maybe you can find a sec

Answered by Mohd Farooq , an ibibo Master, at 4:50 PM on June 17, 2008

hi shivam the best way is take a cold bath, get out of situation, count 10 numbers on finguers until the anger gets down!drink water also!

Answered by Sanjay , an ibibo Guru, at 3:08 PM on June 17, 2008

Take a cold bath, refresh urself, think that the water is washing away ur anger(while u are in water). That way, u have a good chance of forgetting ur anger.Another way is to sit quietly and listen to soft melodious and preferably divine music. At that time again u got to condition ur mind and say to urself that the beauty of the music is washing away ur anger. Like that u can do anything, any activity and just tell urself that u are being purified thru that deed. Even dance,or washing vessels or clothes ,for that matter. It makes u feel secure and happy in the thought that ur anger is within ur control/

Answered by writer , an ibibo Master, at 9:50 PM on June 16, 2008

So how can we effectively control our anger? Time is a key. For each second between the ’’unfair’’ event & ur reaction, ur chances of making a healthier decision are greatly increased. If that child paused for a few seconds when told he was being punished, he might have come up with a less-damaging alternative action. When ur boss makes ur blood boil, waiting, instead of immediately reacting, will almost always produce more positive results.

But how do u add that ’’cooling off’’ time? 1 easy technique involves breathing. Since anger comes from thoughts of unfairness, replacing such thoughts will buy u time. When cut off in traffic, breath in slowly & count to 20 silently. Pay attention to counting slowly. Focus on ur breathing, making sure to breathe slowly & deeply, in through ur nose & out through ur mouth. Listen to the sound of ur breathing. Feel the motion of the air. Smell of the air.

Another anger management technique is ’’square breathing.’’ Inhale slowly while counting to 5. Hold that breath for a count of 5, exhale slowly for a count of 5, then count to five before the next breath. Continue doing this until u feel less angry & more in control of ur thoughts. Then think about ur choices of how to react & the consequences of each choice. What will get u what u really want?

If more help is needed than simply refocusing ur thoughts through breathing, try having a friend or family member give u clues when u are losing ur temper. This can be difficult, since someone with an anger problem often gets angrier when someone tries to get into the middle of a situation.

Sometimes, seeking professional help is the answer. This is especially true if u find ur anger is frequent & causing real problems in ur work, family or relationships with others. A professional counselor will work with u to help u identify the causes of ur anger & find ways to control ur reactions.

Answered by deepa iyer , an ibibo Advisor, at 8:12 PM on June 16, 2008

1. Count to 10 when you are getting upset. This is a normal way that we have all heard. We have heard it because it works if you practice it. Count to 10 and you may solve many of your outbursts before they happen.

2. Do something that is physically exerting. Instead of punching a wall or a person, go run around the house, or mow the yard. Go for a walk, swim, bikeride, or shoot some hoops. This can provide a physical outlet for your emotions.

3. Find something that is calming. Try deep breathing from your diaphragm. Take 10 deep calming breaths. This can be very soothing for most people. Combine this with step 1 and count to 10 slowly while breathing.

4. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. I am frustrated because you didn’t help with the housework, instead of You didn’t help me with the housework. This helps in multiple ways one is your way of thinking is a bit better and you also do not upset the other person so that both parties are angry. Which of course is not a good outcome for anyone.
Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.


3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.


4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.


5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.


6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.


7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.


8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.


9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”


10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!
I HOPE ANY 1 OF THESE WILL HELP U !!!

Answered by keerthi , an ibibo Advisor, at 7:42 PM on June 16, 2008

u must leave that place immidately............and must drink cold water,and forget about that thing..........

Answered by samya khan at 4:31 PM on June 16, 2008

You appear to be quite young and the blood is generally hot at this age. Hence it is not very unnatural to become hyper at your age. However, some remedial measures:
- When you go to sleep, breath deeply and calm yourself down. Dont drink or watch TV. As you start to calm down & experience peace, repeat mentally " I WILL NOT GET ANGRY" at least 3 times
- When you get up in morning, again repeat this and remind yourself that you will not get Angry.
It may take couple of days to master this technique of controlling your behaviour through your sub-conscious mind, but it works like a Miracle.

Answered by Devendrakuma , an ibibo Citizen, at 3:52 PM on June 16, 2008