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Asked in Personal Health at 5:03 PM on March 19, 2008

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The problem might be that everything you're thinking about when you get ready for sex makes the problem worse. First of all you're young, so you naturally have a high sex drive: and that in itself makes you very ready to ejaculate. Second, you know you are going to come quickly, so naturally your attention is focused on that expectation. Third, your partner may be young and inexperienced as well, and looking to you for a lead during sex, so that will put even more pressure on you.

We do have several suggestions, though. First of all, masturbate some time before you have sex so that you have perhaps a chance of lasting longer when you have sexual intercourse. Then, during sex, deal with your premature ejaculation with some mental and physical techniques. As soon as you feel you are about to come during sex itself, stop thrusting, lie still, think of something else. In other words, take yourself mentally out of the situation. After two or three minutes your arousal should have dropped, so you can then go back to thrusting - but take it slowly. Slow and steady will help you last longer. If you feel yourself getting too aroused, then slow down the pace of intercourse or withdraw altogether from your partner.

If this doesn't help you last longer, close your eyes and think of something else. Take yourself out of the moment, count to thirty and then back down again. Or alternatively, try using pressure to stop yourself from coming too quickly: squeeze your penis just below the head between your finger and thumb or ask your partner to do it. It may also help if your partner doesn't get you too aroused during the early stages of sex. Avoid, for example, oral sex, or masturbation. Make those separate activities which you enjoy when you aren't going to have full penetrative sex.
This way you may find it easier to control your ejaculation.

There is more your partner can do to help you control your ejaculation. First of all, she can take pressure off you by agreeing that if you come before she is satisfied, you can masturbate or give her oral sex until she has had an orgasm.

During sex, if you need to stop thrusting to allow your arousal to drop, remind her to stay turned on by using fantasy or by touching herself in a way that keeps her aroused. Ask her if she is willing to help you learn greater self-control by assisting you with the stop-start technique or the squeeze technique. Better yet, sign up for the control program described on this website (click here) and ask her to help you with the methods that it describes!

Lasting longer is not a matter of chance - it is a matter of experience, skill and confidence. Premature ejaculation can be confidence sapping, but it doesn't need to be - and if you have a confident, happy relationship, it is easy for a couple to work through the issues and find a long term solution.

Think of something else (even though it's not very fun to). That's how I managed to prevent premature ejaculation. Even now sometimes when things get REALLY hot I have to think of baseball.

Lots and lots of foreplay and lots and lots of sex. That way you are less excited when you get down to intercourse.

Answered by Rekha , an ibibo Advisor, at 7:33 PM on March 19, 2008

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The squeeze technique
Your doctor may instruct you and your partner in the use of a method called the squeeze technique. This method works as follows:

* Step 1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate.
* Step 2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes.
* Step 3. After the squeeze is released, wait for about 30 seconds, then go back to foreplay. You may notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual stimulation is resumed, it soon regains full erection.
* Step 4. If you again feel you're about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process.

By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. After a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation may become a habit that no longer requires the squeeze technique.

Answered by Khursheed , an ibibo Master, at 11:56 AM on March 20, 2008

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mangal u can check in Stop and Start Method for premature ejaculation
If you find yourself nearing climax withdraw your penis from your partner and allow yourself to relax enough to prevent ejaculation. By starting and stopping sexual stimulation you can learn to prolong the sex act.

Squeeze Methods can help prevent premature ejaculation
This method involves either the man or his partner squeezing (fairly firmly) the end or the tip of the penis for 10 to 20 seconds when ejaculation is imminent, withholding stimulation for about 30 seconds, then continuing stimulation. This can be repeated until ejaculation is desired. The stop and start method can be used with the squeeze method as well.

Desensitizing Creams for premature ejaculation
Creams can be used to desensitize the end of the penis. They act like a local or tropical anesthetic. Thicker condoms (or two condoms) can also desensitize by decreasing sensitivity and therefore stimulation, thus prolonging the sexual act.

More Foreplay prevents premature ejaculation
Stimulate your partner to a state of high arousal before you have your genitals touched, that way ejaculation and orgasm can be achieved about the same time.

Masturbation to prevent premature ejaculation
Practice different methods by yourself. Getting to know your feelings and sensations gives you the chance to gain confidence.

Remember getting good at sex and overcoming premature ejaculation can take a bit of time. Practice makes perfect. If you find that things are not improving then help is available from sex therapists who are experts in this field.

Answered by sanjay , an ibibo Guru, at 11:41 AM on March 20, 2008

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It is a problem of most of the newly weds. This is because of over exitement. If you can cotrol your emotions, than probably you can get rid of the problem. There are certain medications available in the market which helps this sort of people. There are lubricants with anesthesi(2% lignocaine gel), which reduces your penile sensation just preventing you from ejaculating. Even there are condoms too which comes up with anesthesia to increase ur duration of coupulation. Medicines like viagra too acts for premature ejaculation.

Answered by MRIDUL BORA , an ibibo Master, at 1:28 AM on March 20, 2008

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visit the clinic which helped me improve my problem. Use Aloe vera....

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Answered by Ketan Mehta , an ibibo Citizen, at 12:21 AM on March 20, 2008

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dear mangal!
Practice "stop and start technique" and "sqweezing technique" are useful to prevent premature ejaculation.They can be learned from a qualified sexologist.

Answered by cuty , an ibibo Specialist, at 10:55 PM on March 19, 2008

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In ayurvedic there are so many medicines to prevent premature ejaculation but in allopathy there is only one molecule and even under trial viz dapoxetin.but the best way out is to learn foreplay as per ur partners need and during foreplay try controlling your mentality and also during intercourse.This will certainly help u to survive for a long time in bed as well as in fulfilling ur partners desire.But the main thing is ur mental state during the foreplay.Just try to think that u have to overexcite ur partner in bed and suppoes urself as a mature performer.

Answered by Aminul , an ibibo Citizen, at 9:15 PM on March 19, 2008

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you can tyry various techniues like hold and squeeze and donot be overeited

Answered by rajesh goyl , an ibibo Advisor, at 8:08 PM on March 19, 2008

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For this u can try this medical prescription for 5 months,take ashvagandha powder,satavari powder,mulethi powder 2-2 table spoon daily. ashvagandha tablets are used2-2 tablets twice aday.
u can eat urad ki dal ki kheer. in fruits bananas are best. for sexual pleasure u can use single capsule of "power" tablet.
after 3 months vill feel change by your self.

Answered by payal rawat , an ibibo Advisor, at 7:29 PM on March 19, 2008

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