hi nishikata, congratulations for ur engagement. nishikata marriage a life long commitment so before entering into anything think seriously about it .have u properly analysed the deapth of ur prob . work out the fact dat is ur wud be is a regular drinker or he drinks occassionly, and if he drinks regularly wat is the motive behind this . drinking is not a big problem if it is tackled properly. But its ur life so u have to decide if u cant take an achoholic at all then u should move out of it.Be firm n bold about ur decision, remember its ur life n only u should decide wat u want out of it.

Answered by sujata , an ibibo Citizen, at 3:20 PM on May 16, 2008

Hi Nishikata, it is really difficult to get a person in todays world who do not drink. If you are trying to say that your future husband is alcohold dependant, than I suggest you should cancell the wedding. Because you will be happier to be alone than to be the wife of a alcohol dependant.
If your to be husband drinks sometimes, than with your love and affection, you can put down his habit and thereby lead a happier family life.
You need to find out the quantum of alcohol he consume daily to take your decision and if it is really high, than better look for another guy whom you beleive doesn't drink or drinks a little.

Answered by MRIDUL BORA , an ibibo Master, at 11:31 PM on May 09, 2008

get married if u like else mention it to ur prnts.. do not worry of wats to hpn wen u tel.. rmbr its ur future.. by any chance u get married try changin him to d best u can.. rmbr do gv him a brk do not pressure him too much..
if u still feel u ve no hopes on him or u dnt ve any expectations.. den i guess u no wat to do... plz dnt angry on wat i told above.. im just plain n frank to wat ive to say... tc ve a nice day

Answered by Yohan Wolf , an ibibo Citizen, at 5:24 PM on May 08, 2008

Simply refuse this marriage. Do not try to change the man after, instead make him prove to you now, he can stop drinking. but it is my guess he will never stop drinking, so just refuse this marriage very firmly, it is your life, don't spoil it with a drunk husband.

Answered by Debasis , an ibibo Master, at 2:12 PM on May 08, 2008

Sit with him and discuss across the table that you do not like alcohol. Convince him to leave the habit. If necessary, take him to de-addiction classes. If he do not agree, thyen cancel the marriage. Instead of repenting later, take preventives now itself.

Answered by Shamasunder , an ibibo Citizen, at 9:31 PM on May 06, 2008

stay away from him

Answered by param . , an ibibo Citizen, at 2:47 PM on May 05, 2008

dear friend alcoholic person means only 10% minded person.....

our science say,
after taking alcohol the men forget everything,even than ur wife....

so dear left that marrige.matter...........
dea r dont compromise with alcoholic person......

Answered by bs kanwal , an ibibo Citizen, at 7:18 PM on May 03, 2008

in my view just leave .

Answered by amandeep at 3:05 PM on May 03, 2008

hey simply reject the marriage... afterall this is ur life, only u know how to live it.. just think if u got marrid with that guy under pressure or wen u in double mind...then only u ll b responsible 4 tht, and u hv to suffer many untolerable things, c m nt saying tht guy is bad ..tht guy may b vry gud by nature bt to take care of alcoholic person is vry difficult thing.. this is nt d case of 1-2 months ..this is d amtter of whole life.. so take time 4 d decision... bt if u dnt like tht den simply reject...be brave.. set the example 4 others... may b ur effort stops many guys to drink...

Answered by Deepinder , an ibibo Citizen, at 10:40 AM on May 03, 2008

Simply refuse this marrage. Do not try to change the man after, instead make him proove to you now, he can stop drinking. but it is my guess he will never stop drinking, so just refuse this marrage very firmly, it is your life, dont spoil it with a drunk husband.

Answered by Paul , an ibibo Citizen, at 7:33 AM on May 03, 2008